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My husband and I begin our foster care training this evening.  We are so very excited about bringing a little one in need into our home.  I was reading an article this morning here: http://fostersurvivor.netfirms.com/statistics.shtml (I have no idea why the layout of the article is so messed up!) and found some disturbing statistics.  I won’t go into details…you can read the article for that… but here are a few of the more startling ones:

  • A recent study has found that 12-18 months after leaving foster care:
    27% of the males and 10% of the females had been incarcerated
    33% were receiving public assistance
    37% had not finished high school
    50% were unemployed
  • 80 percent of prison inmates have been through the foster care system.
  • Children are 11 times more likely to be abused in State care than they are in their own homes.
  • Children died as a result of abuse in foster care 5.25 times more often than children in the general population.

Something I found interesting was the fact that the article began, “A few pieces of information that really bring home the point that CPS is not taking care of their charges.”  Now, I’m not here to defend CPS.  I’m not here to make any sort of statement about CPS, but I don’t think we can lay the blame solely on their shoulders.  I think we all bear a portion of that blame.

I’m reminded of a famous quote from Edmund Burke: “All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.” I think that is certainly true here.  Where are all of the non-abusive families willing to take children in?  We know that abusive families are certainly a minority, so why do they account for the majority of foster families?  Because good people are doing nothing. Because good people aren’t taking these children in, so virtually all that’s left are the dysfunctional families who will do it for the reimbursement check.

Well, I’m determined to break the cycle. My family is going to do something.  We are going to take these children in.  Who’s with me?

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The start of this blog marks a new venture in my life.  Contrary to everyone’s predictions about my “big news,” I am not pregnant.  However, it does concern my future children.  For several years I have thought, “If I ever get to be a stay-at-home mom, I’d like to open an online vintage clothing store.”  I always thought that it was something I would be good at and that it would be a great way to provide additional income for my family.  Fast forward a few years and Ed (my husband) and I are talking about our future as a family.  We know that our destiny is to be an ever-expanding family–bringing in orphans from this country and abroad.  We feel that while it is good to support orphanages, it is better to bring those children into a family.  Every child deserves more than three meals a day and a roof over their head.  Each child that is born into this world is a gift to all of us and they deserve a real family.  A mom and a dad who care for them, nurture them and guide them.  Siblings to love them, grow up with them, argue with them, and stand at their wedding.  Every child deserves to love and be loved.  So, Ed and I have decided to make our home a safe place for children.  We will be biological, adoptive and foster parents, but to the children we will simply be Mom and Dad.

Anyway, as we were discussing our future, we have decided that this year would be a good time for us to buy a home.  We currently live in a 2-bedroom apartment which limits our options for foster care and adoption.  We would love to have a home where we can settle in and allow our family to grow.  My husband has been blessed with a great job as a science teacher in a great school district, but in order to really do all that we want to do we need some additional income.  We had been pondering this for a few weeks when my lovely sister-in-law, Emily, called.  She asked me if I had ever considered selling the things I crochet.  She said a friend of hers makes a good amount of money every month doing that.  I told her I thought it would be too stressful.  Then we had a very nice conversation about other things.

Later that day, I just couldn’t get her suggestion out of my head.  Then I remembered my vintage shop idea.  Bingo!  I had honestly forgotten all about that idea.  So, thanks to Emily, I will be opening “The Funky Lamp” where I will sell one-of-a-kind and handmade fashion and home decor items.  I know it won’t be easy and the competition is fierce, but I’ve just got a feeling about this.  Keep on the lookout for my little store to open next week…and encourage me please!  This is so exciting!  …and intimidating.

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